The "manly man", of course, gives up a lot to be a good dad. He could be hunting or fishing or whatever, but he chooses to do what is best for the family. He rarely gets a "man break". That does happen the weekend of Veteran's Day every year, but not often otherwise. And, he doesn't do the typical man things like watching the holiday bowl games or poker or whatever it is that other men do not involving their families.
Anyway, that was a little off-subject. Back to Christmas. Part of being a team is also building traditions that make holidays (and normal days) special.
Here are a few of our Christmas ones:
- Christmas letters - letters written to each child to encourage and exhort them in what they have done right and things that they might want to work on.
- Cheese and crackers, fruit, sparkling juice on Christmas eve in the den
- Opening one present on Christmas Eve (parent's choice)
- Oyster Stew - we have this for Thanksgiving and Christmas almost without fail
- Reading the Christmas story from Luke (the kids each read a little) before presents and then....
- Prayer together
These little things help us remember what is important this time of year: God and family (in that order).
We also always see his family the weekend before for fondue and presents, and my family the weekend after (or some time in the holidays). We usually always seek to have Christmas day itself in our own home. That doesn't always happen because of various family commitments, but usually. This helps us focus on the core unit which is hard in today's culture. And that is kind of my point. This is a common theme of my blog, but make time for each other. Make sacrifices for your family and remember to do all you can to draw the string softly yet tightly (and lovingly, of course) around your spouse and kids. I think it helps when times are tough to remember that you had some good solid memories and traditions. Having just been to the Gardens, forgive the gardening metaphor, but it helps to construct a lattice for your family to grow on!!
Thanks again for all your comments to me personally about enjoying my blog. It feels good to write it simply for myself, but it does help to know from time to time that others are reading!! I love and cherish all my friends. You make my life sooooooo much richer.