Wednesday, March 25, 2009

All It Takes

All it takes is a trip to Wal-Mart to remind me how hard it is to parent a girl.  My girl doesn't like clothes, looking cute or (Gosh forbid) dressing up.  When we are together, I want to buy her clothes, she doesn't want them or doesn't care and she for sure doesn't want to try them on.  Except when I ask her to try them on, she refuses and then when I get miffed and say that will require an extra trip for me to take them back if they don't fit she says, "See Mom, you really like to make people feel guilty."

After that comment, do you think she got candy or anything she wanted?  NO!!!

I guess on the other side of the coin, I am buying her something she really doesn't want or care about and asking her to do something for my convenience....

This kid is not the one to make me feel warm and fuzzy.....at least not at this stage in the game. 

Because I am feeling like this post is almost an attempt to get back at her for bad behavior or her personality issues, she and I have been attempting to bond more lately.  I guess I know that she might not feel that she needs it, but she DOES, and I need it too.  I didn't have a daughter to have her be a stranger.  So, there have been some ups as well as downs, like going together to get our toenails done, me laying in bed next to her praying for her, playing with her hair and blow-drying it, enjoying a good joke together, and reading all the little sheets from #2s tear-off calendar (Ripley's Believe It or Not) and getting grossed out at times.  

She is still the one who will chose other things over video games (unlike the boys) and will spend "girly-time" with me especially if there is something in it for her - {GRIN}!!


3 comments:

Valerie said...

Have I mentioned, again, what a wonderful parent you are! I love to see moms like you who truely WANT to be involved in their kids lives. I enjoy hearing your stories and take much of it to heart..shelve the info in my mind and intend on pulling it out again when my kids reach that age. Thank you for being such a positive influence in so many lives. By the way, love the hats on #2. He looks so dashing in the photo. I love that #3 loves to read. I really want to instill that in my girls and #4 looks so much like you while #1 looks like the best mix of you two--to me. Talk to you soon...

Rachel said...

Hang in there! I think it will pay off down the road, even though things are hard now. Maybe you guys could start a mother-daughter book club with some other moms/ tweens?

rosegirl said...

Thanks, Val! I luv ya!